Gottman Relationship Checkup

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What Is It?

The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a breakthrough in couple’s therapy as it allows for a confidential, efficient way for your clinician to complete the evaluation process. Created by Drs. John and Julie Gottman in collaboration with The Gottman Institute, this online assessment looks at a couple’s strengths and challenges in their relationships. The Gottman Relationship Checkup Assessment looks at various areas and is made up of five sections regarding friendship, intimacy, conflict, shared values and goals, and other areas that may be of concern.This clinical tool consists of 480 questions about friendship, intimacy, how well you know your partner, how you manage emotions and conflict, how you share your values and goals, and what gives meaning to your lives. There are additional questions about parenting, housework, finances, trust, and individual areas of concern.  This confidential assessment provides your counsellor with an efficient way to complete the evaluation process. By completing this assessment, valuable information is provided by pinpointing specific strengths and challenges. From the results, a personalised treatment plan is formed with the therapist that suggests in-depth, research-based recommendations for therapy. 

By using this new technology, your assessment can be done at any time and in the setting of your choice! Upon completion, it automatically provides valuable clinical information by pinpointing specific strengths and challenges in your relationship, while also suggesting actionable, research-based recommendations for therapy.

The Gottman Relationship Checkup is comprised of five sections:

  • Friendship and Intimacy: relationship satisfaction, emotional connection, romance, and admiration
  • The Safety Scales: trust, chaos, commitment, and emotional philosophies
  • The Conflict Scales: stress, relationship harshness, and conflict management
  • The Shared Meaning System: shared rituals, values, and goals
  • Individual Areas of Concern: individual issues, safety, sex, depression, drug and alcohol use, violence, anxiety, and other issues that may need psychological or psychiatric help

The questionnaire takes approximately two hours to complete. You can take a break any time by logging out and back in, returning to where you left off. When both you and your partner have completed the questionnaire, your clinician receives the results. They can then review it with you and provide actionable recommendations for therapy.

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A one off fee of $29 USD per couple paid to the Gottman institute.

Therapist fee of $180 paid to Evexia Counselling Services.

How it works:

1. Accept your invitation

Your counsellor will send each of you a separate email inviting you to The Gottman Relationship Checkup.

2. Create a private profile

Once you have accepted the email invitation to join The Gottman Relationship Checkup, you and your partner will each create individual, separate profiles.

3. Complete the questionnaire

You and your partner will each complete your own questionnaire at your convenience. Stop and start at anytime. Neither partner will be able to access the other’s information at any point in the process. In order to pre-serve the integrity and accuracy of the tool, you are encouraged not to share your responses with each other or log in to your partner’s account. The actual time it takes to complete each assessment varies, but it will take, on average, about two hours.

4. Get your results

When you have both completed your individual questionnaires, your therapist will be notified and will be able to securely log in to review your scores and the analysis of your relationship. Your therapist will be able to discuss the results with you and suggest a treatment plan for improving and strengthening your relationship.